In America we have been preaching this life-balance crap for a while now; everyone who has a family and a career should devote time to their families and make them a priority in life, spend time with their children, attend soccer games, eat together,,,, blah, blah, blah… Who makes this crap up?

So if I am doing all these things in the measures acceptable by society ( I don’t even know what that would look like by the way, 20/80, 50/50?), then I am OK….Wow.. If I am not, then I am not OK and my family is dysfunctional or bad or something like that.

So, I am this extraordinary human with perfect balance in my life as described and prescribed by many experts and god knows who else, and all is good now… all is right with the world. I say this is one hell of a great way we are keeping ourselves tranquillized. Tranquillized with good feelings.

You know what is dysfunctional; avoiding bad feelings and maximizing good feelings. That is what is so disgusting about us humans. We want the good feelings; love, gratitude, joy, laughter, clean, pretty, new, fresh, but we don’t want the bad stuff; pressure, conflict, disease, dirt, wounds, blood, carcass, cancer, heart attack, discomfort of any-kind not even a lawn with grass that is longer than our eyes can bare. What a way to live. We really don’t want life-balance. We want the good feelings that we think it provides. It is just another feel good path invented to deal with life inauthentically. It is one hell of a way to lie to ourselves, and protect ourselves from the bad stuff of the world. How stupid.. And those who achieve it think they are doing great. Well they are tranquilized with goodness. Their kids are growing up totally tranquilized from the beginning. Lets just wait and see. What a way to separate your self from the world.

Life is about engagement, being straight with what calls you to be. Like Robert S. DeRopp say;

“Seek above all a game worth playing. Such is the advice of the oracle to modern man. Having found the game play it with intensity – play as if your life and sanity depended on it (they do depend on it). Follow the example of the French existentialists and flourish a banner bearing the word ‘engagement.’ Though nothing means anything and all roads are marked ‘no exit,’ yet move as if your movements had some purpose. If life does not seem to offer a game worth playing, then invent one. For it must be clear, even to the clouded intelligence, any game is better than no game.”

Raise your flag for not being balanced, engage to your hearts content with what calls you. Hell with your family, they will be taken care of, they are the lucky ones even if you died tomorrow. If you really listen “The World” is waiting to be served. Will you answer the call? Will you mess up your life?

Thank you for reading.